Parenting is one of the toughest jobs there is. Every day, you are forced to make decisions that will alter the future of your child’s development and their lives. To that end, it is important to know all that you can when it comes to making sound decisions that will be beneficial to you, your child, and your family structure. In this article, we will address some tips that will help you to become a better parent.
A lot of the time, it may seem to your child like you are nagging them. Children are often told what to do, and parents try to direct a child’s actions so that they will make the decisions that are the best for them. Children can quickly grow numb to merely following orders, however, so it is important to consider the fact that you should try to show your child what they should do through taking actions as opposed to simply telling them something. For instance, if your child is messy and doesn’t put their dirty clothes into the hamper, you may want to consider only washing the clothes that are in the hamper as opposed to constantly telling them to put their dirty clothes in the hamper.
One thing that you may want to consider when it comes to disciplining your child is to use natural consequences. That means that the consequences that you provide for something that your child does should be similar to the kinds of problems they would expect if they continued engaging in the activity. For instance, if your child tends to lose their keys constantly, you may want to consider allowing them to fix the problem on their own so that they won’t have to rely on you and they will make sure that they keep their keys on them as often as they can in the future.
Whenever your child does something that you don’t like, you should address the thing that they did as opposed to the child themselves. Don’t cast blame; avoid making statements like ‘I hate it when you don’t make your bed’, you should say something like ‘It is really important to me that the beds in the house are made every morning’. This way of addressing problems doesn’t attack the child’s self esteem, but it firmly establishes in their mind exactly what types of behavior that you expect of them.
An important thing to consider when it comes to matters of parenting is that the things that you do to your child now will likely stay with them for life. With that in mind, you should behave in ways that you would hope that they would behave in when they grow up. For instance, if you spank your child when they do something that upsets you, they may be more prone to using violence to solve their own problems later in life. To that end, you should parent with the end result in mind as opposed to the immediate consequences of the actions you take.